How to protect your child from the juvenile aggression?



  How to protect your child from the juvenile aggression? The word "teenager" has a curious effect. When it comes to adolescents and teens, indifferent companions remains. Each is a story about how difficult it is build communication and the relationship with the child of this age. Himself a teenager no less painful, but rarely to us adults, it is possible to think about it.

A teenager is among the world of childhood and the adult world. He had no idea which of the worlds present a greater extent. Others to understand it even more difficult. Thus, every teenager in terms of psychology and psychiatry, - a man with a "border" mentality; originality age is such that more or less pronounced "psychopathology" in most cases is "normal."

However, the idea of the inevitability of some kind of horrific disasters during the period of puberty, according to psychologists, are greatly exaggerated. Most teens that age is in accordance with known standards and criteria options for successfully adapting to the society. In the most troubling in this age should be 1,111,118. unpredictability of 1,111,119. , [b] aggressiveness 1,111,119. and 1,111,118. alienation 1,111,119. .

That these traits and are characterized mainly teenagers from associations that cause parental anxiety.

Let us analyze the most dangerous quality. Aggression directed outward, according to psychologists, as a rule, is a reflection of subconscious aggression towards himself. Just as love for people is impossible without the love and respect for their own ego.

The feelings are generated by the growing human [url=http://shkolazhizni.ru/archive/0/n-1485/] under the influence of 11,111,115. parental emotions towards him. It is important that the child in this situation is not totally passive side. His heredity, natural data from the first hours of life interact with the attitude towards him "significant adults - mostly parents.

In this case the formation of an aggressive attitude to the world not only results in direct aggression aimed at the child or adolescent, but also the appearance of his persistent feelings of guilt and doubt in his own "good things" under the influence of lack of adequate support from parents. When produced by a persistent belief in their own "nehoroshesti" becomes unnecessary socially acceptable behavior - indeed, it may be a competition: Who will be the most sinister .

So how can you help your child avoid a collision with a similarly-minded teens?

 The perpetrator more difficult to approach self-confident person. Confidence is formed family education helps the child to avoid sacrificial behavior on the street: a timid gait, darting glance, the expectations (and hence of attraction) of aggression.

 Purposeful person difficult to stop - he was doing to him psychologically difficult to approach. Primary goal-setting man as taught in the family, mostly by example of their parents.

 Physically strong man simply resists aggression. Psychologists established a direct correlation between the degree of ownership over their bodies and self-confidence. At the very unpleasant developments enduring sport easier for man to escape from the attackers, if the need arises. Or fight back. Of course, to stand up against a few people uneasy, but the tyrant who fights back, not as much fun as a docile victim.

 A man whose confidence 11,111,114. relationships with parents 11,111,115. Can not be intimidated to such an extent that he could not share with them encountered trouble. There is nothing wrong with that, together with your child to talk with offenders, perhaps even to provide adequate retribution for the continuation of prosecution. It is important to have an adult with such a communication was adequate and balanced. The promise of a just retribution, spoken in raised voices, sounds much less convincing than the spoken smooth and calm voice.

 To create a trust need to communicate with the child on an equal footing - to know about his interests, share them with him and share. In general, this means friendship with your own child.

 
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