How to help teens in self?

  How to help teens in self? Of course you know dear readers, that a man - being unique and can itself correct, improve and educate. Can parents help their children growing up in the organization of self? Years of experience educating replied in the affirmative to this question. And while self-education process is complicated, to help his organization can not only teacher, but also a thoughtful, attentive parent. But at what age should refer to the self-education, because it requires a certain level of development?

This time is during adolescence - it was then observed in children becoming dedication, a manifestation of independence and self-esteem. The more independent the child, the more creative it is active, influencing not only the external world, but also on the inner world. Development under the influence of external forces and education becomes gradually self-development, which is based on self-education and self-education. Awareness of the needs of students in self-education is usually after the fifth grade.

Teenager pretends to be recognized as adults, but at the same time feels his limitations and tries to hide it, demonstrating the independence of the external or swagger. Awareness of this contradiction is pushing him to work on them. The teenager wants to not play in the adult, as it does sometimes younger student, but to be them, and wants it to recognize others. Through self-education he seeks to address deficiencies in their own behavior, eliminate existing weaknesses, build quality, which would give him the right to be strong-willed, capable and independent.

Under the self-education meant the systematic work on oneself, aimed at creating positive qualities necessary for the activity and life in society, to overcome the negative qualities if they are available. There are ancient Indian parable is an appeal to the man: "What do you look at the other, what they do and what not to do? Look better in myself, what you do and what not to do? ". As you see, dear readers, already in ancient times, people understood that it is necessary to identify their weaknesses and deal with them.

Most teens want to nurture the qualities of a strong will: the courage, endurance, courage, perseverance. You say: "But how can I help him?". It can even, dear parents: self-efficacy depends on the organization, direction and evaluation, and taking active part in them, you will most directly contribute to the successful education and development of new business. Here there is a dual relationship: education creates the conditions for self-education and self-education, in turn, helps to successful education.

You can carry out preparatory work:
1. Convincing a teenager in need of self-explain to him that the challenges of life requires strong will and character.
2. Prove examples that will and character is not given by nature, that they are formed in the process of education and self, that tireless work on ourselves brings surprising results.
3. Identify the problem, ways and means of self-education.
When self-organization, you can, dear parents, knowing the potential of your child, establish realistic goals and objectives, work methods, stimulate the goal, to teach self-control, self-hypnosis techniques samoubezhdeniya and, relieved of indecisiveness, fear, insecurity. Examples of tasking may be very different:
1. BY mode of the day.
2. Raising a strong will.
3. Hardened body.
4. Brought up in his perseverance.
5. During the first level (to become a master of sports).
6. Brought up in his persistence.
7. Graduating from a good school.

For each task, make a life plan taking into account external requirements and the child's own capabilities, determine the methods of self-education at large and a short period of time. Install a multi-tiered accountability, self-monitoring and evaluation for the effectiveness of the goal. Suggest a teenager in response to monitor and evaluate your self-education to get rid of bad habits, such as: decision to quit smoking or to stop swearing for any reason, or at least to do morning exercises, and he was happy to join in the competition.

Keep in mind only, dear parents, that each score (both positive and negative) should contribute to further work on them and combined with an indication of the possibilities of reaching new positive results, with help, promotes adolescent, which in turn gives us satisfaction and confidence in their force. Celebrate the achievement of even the smallest positive results - it is important for the intensification of work on oneself.